Men: Soften the fuck up.

Men are people too. If, as Warren Farrell says, women’s greatest strength is their facade of weakness and men’s greatest weakness is our facade of strength, would it not make sense that we treat ourselves and other men with the simple respect of honest communication?

I used to be Mr. Shield, hoping that bullets would bounce off of me. The problem is that they don’t. They dent and pierce the shield, and the torn armour becomes embedded in the flesh. I’ve learned that what is better is what I think of as “becoming transparent”, that is, to let things flow though you without permitting the bullet to gain any purchase on one’s mental or emotional flesh.

It is for this reason that I endorse and encourage men to become vulnerable. When we are hurt, say it. On the spot. “I feel hurt that you would say this to me, or treat me this way”.

The next bit is accepting that as men, we are not pigs, Male Chauvinist or otherwise. We are not rapists, Schrodinger’s or otherwise. We are not oppressors, misogynists, tools of The Patriarchy.

Name calling is one of the basest social control mechanisms, an instinctive one, I think. Consider: what is name calling if not an attack on one’s social status by attempting to reduce someone’s dignity in their own eyes: shaming.

Be vulnerable. Refuse shame. Be who you are. And don’t give up.

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4 thoughts on “Men: Soften the fuck up.

  1. DaPoet says:

    I work with men all day long and as an expert observer of the male species I can say honestly that men are indeed pigs.

  2. DaPoet says:

    One of the problems with feminism is their condemnation of all men in all things while ignoring the positive things of the male gender. While those within the MHRM go in the opposite direction by totally ignoring the males gender penchant to destroy and dominate any and everyone who dares to disagree with them or get in their way. Unfortunately men and and women have the same fallen nature in common and all too often chose to display their not so better natures towards others.

    • Francis Roy says:

      I disagree with your points. Feminism does not condemn all men in all things. It condemns men in ways that advantage them, and will, if pushed, grudgingly accept men’s strong points. The question you’ve failed to address is “What kind of feminist?”. It’s a Man’s World, and It Always Will Be.

      I further disagree with your assessment of members of the MHRM. You claim “totally ignoring the males gender penchant to destroy and dominate any and everyone who dares to disagree with them or get in their way”. I am one person who is living evidence that this statement isn’t global. It would take far more on your part to demonstrate that the majority of men are this way, and to argue the case that MHRA’s ignore this.

      Unfortunately men and and women have the same fallen nature in common and all too often chose to display their not so better natures towards others.

      This I agree with. Both misandry and misogyny are symptoms of people who are damaged, or ignorant, or simply have under-developed characters.

      First and foremost in my mind is always “People are fucked”, soon thereafter is “but I’ll try not to hold it against them, as I myself am ‘people’ and would hope for the same courtesy in return.”

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