I’ve long held the belief that people are basically decent, and that most of those that aren’t are mostly injured people. Men, women, we all have our life histories, familial and cultural circumstances that put us on edge. We all have learned responses. At some point, certain events mark us, more or less permanently–until they don’t.
We are simple mammals. We are apes. Dumb, clumsy, greedy people who hope for the best in life and a little love and appreciation. We want to fit in. We want to be happy. We want to have purpose, and carry it out as our skill allows. I honestly believe in the end that what we seek are healthy, happy and fair relationships.
Observe the prevalence of relational aggression, in person and on the internet. What is internet rudeness if not a form of verbal aggression? I believe that it is fear-agression. People have been hurt over time, and as a compensatory mechanism, recognize that instilling fear in others often prevents aggression against one’s self. Attack before you are attacked.
What is misandry, or any form of bigotry, if not fear-agression? Mysogynist! Rapist! Monster! Oppressor! This is merely aggression masking fear, unless it is a deliberate and cynical manipulation. For the most part, on the level of masses, I believe that it is the former. At some point, most people learned fears based on their own life-events. Modern Radical Feminism makes use of this and validates it by creating rationalizations for it. Patriachy! Misogyny! Danger! Danger! Bad men! Dangerous men! Rape! Rape! Rape!
I have a deep and dark confession to make: I love women. I love them, but I’m tired of being barked at, nipped and bitten. I’m disappointed in how they behave toward me and my brethren, and increasingly amongst themselves, all inspired by the Radical Feminist ideology.
Most people want loving relationships. That’s what I’m aiming for: Strong, calm, balanced and joyful interactions. There’s enough pain in the world that we don’t need to use pseudo-justifications to pass our own onto others. We need to see each other for who we are, with our strengths and weakness our vices and virtues. We need to understand that the personal need not be political. The personal needs to be addressed, head on, with courage and some hope. The political needs to be addressed with impartiality, respect and dare I say it, a certain degree of kindness.
A Men’s Rights Activist is merely someone who seeks genuine impartiality under law and respect for both sexes (and all in between) on the interpersonal and cultural level, so that we can live the best life that we can live, despite our humanity.
The final solution is one of character. We need to prove strength, dignity and honour–and dare I repeat myself? A little kindness.
Courage and compassion can’t hurt, either.
Brothers and Sisters, when you are socially attacked, recognize that this is another’s pain talking, and that it has little to do with you. Distinguish, however, the difference between being attacked and feeling attacked. Men’s Rights Activists and Feminists are not stupid people, or intrinsically mean at heart, we’re just people, working it out as best we can with what we’ve got. Unfortunately, there are earlier adopters of Feminism that have made their pain political, they have created a war between women and men, under false pretenses. They have sold a false story that hurts us all.
Feminists fall into two camps: those who have a deep understanding of the ideology, and those that merely chew the bubble gum that is handed out. Too many people adopt Feminism because, having failed to do a thorough skeptical investigation of the ideology, and accepting what others say on face value, perceive it as a rationalization and as a justification for their personal pain, a promise that if only their believe hard enough, that the pain will go away.
Strength, dignity and honour for ourselves, kindness and compassion for each other is the only way out.
As time progresses, and as I age, I’ve learned that there is no ideology, no religion, try as they might to pretend to have the answers, that can replace the earned wisdom that comes from introspection and fairness of mind.
I welcome your thoughtful feedback.
The above was triggered by the following video.