Recently, Tarn asked that some of us who consider ourselves MGTOW pipe up on on a comment thread. I did. And now here it is.
1.A MGTOW must be a MAN- This is given, no if ands or buts.
Yes. It is incredibly obvious, but sometimes the obvious must be spoken out loud.
2.A MGTOW should be for non-traditional marriage-
I don’t think so, although this, like point 1 is one of the key elements that make up MGTOW. I personally don’t believe in marriage, or even live-in arrangements.
3. A MGTOW should be non-religious
No, you’re reaching too far. You are attempting to conflate some ultimate form of mental freedom to the simple response of saying “no” to a variety of legal and cultural factors.
4. A MGTOW should not be a female hater-A MGTOW cannot be bitter towards women.
Bull. Some men hate, some men don’t–and it has nothing to do with a response to legal and cultural choices.
5. A MGTOW should have an open mind
Again, no. You’re imposing your ideas on what you think other people should embody.
6. A MGTOW should be willing to stand alone.
See my few previous points.
Much of what you’re trying to do is to come up with some ideology of “What MGTOW is.” Don’t try to create rules for men who are merely doing as the see if for their own lives :)
MGTOW is descriptive, not prescriptive.
MGTOW is not a club, or a group, or an ideology. It is a response to the current circumstances in our society. Men are responding with a cost-benefit analysis, and have come to the conclusion that despite the trade-offs, he is better served by limiting his vulnerability to legal or cultural conditions. That’s all. Calling me MGTOW is like calling me “Tall Guy” or “Bearded Guy” or “White Guy.” You can redefine tall, bearded or white in any sense that you like, but it will not change that which is being described: a man that makes certain life choices.
Imagine that you live in a wild-forest. There are many people who live in the forest, and about 50% of those who do, get maimed or killed because of falling branches. Some have noticed that when they are in a clearing, that less branches fall on them, so they choose to remain in clear-spots. After a while, many of them notice that others are doing so as well, and come up with a handy term: Clear Spotters.
What would you say to someone that tried to dictate what a Clear Spotter must think, feel, do and stand for? They’re just trying to avoid getting bonked by branches. That’s all. And they have nothing else in common.
Even if they don’t call themselves a Clear Spotter, people can still choose to sit in clear spots and be doing the same thing that many Clear Spotters are.
My take on MGTOW is simple.
I, as a man in the western world, in 2014, believe that it is harmful to my interests to accept the role of women’s protectors, providers, or to allow women access to my fertility.
I believe that this is the simplest choice for myself, and have found that many Clear Spotters believe the same. I don’t impose it on you. You may not agree, and exclaim “Then you are not MGTOW!”
So what? I’m still sitting in a clear spot. It doesn’t matter what words you use.
Here’s mah meme o th’matter.