Video after video. The mere accusation of a woman is enough to get a man beaten, or worse yet, killed. The problem is that women, being humans, lie for every reason that humans lie. The problem is also gullible, stupid and sexist men that take up for women, for no reason other than they are women, rather than assessing the facts.
“She said” should never be enough to override “He said.” Or vice-versa.
This applies to the man (and woman) on the street.
This applies to the man (and woman) in the uniform.
This applies to the man (and woman) behind the bench.
So-called “White Knights” are a problem as bad as liars, con-artists and thieves.
Emily Yoffe: Good afternoon, everyone. I look forward to your questions.
Q. Paternity Test: I’ve been married just over two years, and if you had asked me two weeks ago I would’ve said my husband was near perfect. We’d been trying for almost a year to get pregnant, so I was over the moon to show him the positive test result. Then everything came crashing down when he asked me to take a paternity test for his “peace of mind.” I’ve never given him the slightest reason to doubt my fidelity (which he acknowledges) and he doesn’t have a history of being cheated on (although I am his first serious relationship). But he says he just can’t bond with our child until he knows for sure it’s his. I absolutely refuse to do a test during my pregnancy—there is a (very) small chance of miscarriage that I’m just not willing to take for a non-medical reason. He agreed to wait till the birth, but has now turned into a different person—distant and polite. I know that the next step is counseling, except I’m at the point that I’m not sure I even want to save the marriage. What sort of dad is he going to be if his love and trust for me is so conditional? Part of me is strongly tempted to say “You’re right, this child is not yours,” and just raise it myself. Am I overreacting?
A: There’s a strange mental disorder called Capgras delusion in which a person thinks a loved one has been replaced by an imposter. But you are actually living this—your husband has been replaced by a cold, hostile, accusatory lunatic. He doesn’t even have the excuse of having some kind of pregnancy-related hormonal disturbance. I don’t blame you for feeling, “Who is this stranger?” But the stranger is your husband who until this bizarre personality change was the love of your life. You need to tell him you two need counseling now, that you have never been so shaken, and that he is making you question the foundation of your marriage. If he won’t go, then you have to go by yourself. Do not make any major decisions right now. Let’s hope that long before your child is born, your husband will have returned from what turns out to be a temporary derangement. http://www.slate.com/articles/life/dear_prudence/2014/04/dear_prudence_my_husband_demands_a_paternity_test_for_no_good_reason.html
A married couple of two years.
The woman announces that she is pregnant.
The husband and alleged father asks for a paternity test “for his peace of mind.”
The woman refuses to do the test (at least until the birth of the child/ren), and is considering destroying the marriage and becoming a single mother.
The husband is a “cold, hostile, accusatory lunatic” and “has no excuse” and is experiencing “a bizarre personality change.” The wife needs to tell him to get counselling to overcome his “derangement.” Now!
The husband made it clear that he didn’t have peace of mind, an issue that could be easily resolved with a simple post-natal paternity test. The woman hints that it is possible that he is not the father, or at the very least that she is willing to lie about it.
One of my favourite channels is TheJapanChannelDcom. The always-unnamed speaker discusses all things Japanese. Some light and frivolous, others charming, or practical, or traditional, or educational, and occasionally, to his credit he honestly reports on the darker side of Japanese culture.
This one particular episode discusses the notion of the Japanese having little compassion. In short, the Japanese are Stoics: when things are tough, don’t complain, try harder! Do your best! The notion of sharing one’s problems with another in Japan is inconceivable. What can the listener do about it? While this makes for a very self-reliant people, it can also have a downside: people are isolated, even in crowds, and this has a significant impact on the suicide rate. Seeing a psychologist or councillor is considered shameful, to the degree that suicide is seen in a better light than seeking what we Westerners would refer to as help.
This reminds me very much about how we often expect men to handle things. Men don’t speak much about our problems because it’s frowned upon. We should just try harder! Court has ordered you to pay 110% of your earnings in child support? Try harder! Can’t find a job because you you were unable to pay 110% of your salary in child support and you’ve had your professional licences revoked by the court? Try harder! Complain about it, and you’re simply weak and a loser. Shame on you for complaining.
Not unsurprisingly, a good many men commit suicide shortly after having their family destroyed, access to their children denied, outrageous court and lawyer fees applied, which is often followed by job loss, and eventually, depression which can to a final act.
I’ve often thought that suicide on its own is an example of a person feeling that they are without choices. Some men, pushed to the extreme, in the last act of helpless protest choose self-immolation. This is a fate that seems to be mostly reflected in some fathers, at the end of their rope choose; it is the ultimate act of despair.
All in all, the video is really worth the listen. I’ve been subbed to this channel for at least a couple of years. It never gets old, and the speaker is a very insightful man.
And what if the sex offender is a woman? What shall we remove?
A West Australian Liberal backbencher has stood by her comment in parliament that serial sex offenders should “have their penis removed with a blunt instrument”.
There has been public uproar since a man known only as TJD was freed from prison last week by a Supreme Court judge under a strict 10-year supervision order.
Commissioner Kevin Sleight’s decision ended an indefinite detention order handed to TJD in 2011 following vicious assaults on more than a dozen women over 23 years and his psychological assessment as a sexual sadist with psychopathic tendencies.
On Friday, Liberal backbencher Robyn McSweeney stood by her comment made in parliament this week that chemical castration did not always work for sex offenders and “people like this should have their penis removed with a blunt instrument”.
“Obviously, I am a legislator and that is not going to happen, but when we see the damage that this man inflicts on women and children, there is no place for people like this to walk amongst us in society,” she told parliament.
“If I get into trouble for saying that, so be it, because I am not the first one to say things like that.”
TJD was arrested on Wednesday – eight days after being released – for allegedly breaching a reporting condition and was bailed before he appears in Perth Magistrates Court next week.
He is believed to have not brought a diary to a meeting with police.
Ms McSweeny said on Friday she was still “very angry” that TJD was released from prison and expected him to breach parole again.
“I hope that he breaches his bail by cutting off his ankle bracelet and then they can put him back inside (prison),” Ms McSweeney told Fairfax radio.
“He doesn’t seem to have any moral conscience.”
Attorney-General Michael Mischin has ordered a review of WA’s Dangerous Sexual Offenders Act in light of TJD’s release.
High-profile lawyers Tom Percy and Linda Black backed Mr Sleight, saying he was an experienced judge who was not lenient.
“Every seventh murder on our planet occurs within families.
And in most cases it’s all men’s fault.”
This ad is revolting. Here’s the setup. A machine is rigged to do three things.
1. Fail to deliver a product that someone paid for, leaving the product just on the edge of dropping.
2. Show men trying to push or jar the machine so that the product edges off of the intentionally stalled rotor-spring, unknown to him.
3. When the machine is jarred, to display an on-screen woman crying as though she’s being abused.
The ad then displays selected bits of video of frustrated men trying to knock the product loose, of women telling him to calm down, of mothers protecting their young daughters, of police passing all interspersed with creepy music and images of a pretty young woman crying.
Do they show women’s reaction to being ripped off? No. Do they show men who’ve gone for assistance to get the machine to deliver? No. Do they show anything other than men supposedly acting “aggressive” and insinuating that it’s “that easy” to drive a man into a homicidal rage? No.
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Misandry — defined as contempt — for men, is a shockingly common and unquestioned feature of modern society. Whether represented by high or popular culture, its negative effects bias important debates about the role of gender with respect to the workplace, the education system, family law and even our understanding of violence.
Featuring a live interview with Paul Nathanson, McGill Professor and author of Spreading Misandry: The Teaching of Contempt for Men in Popular Culture (2001) Legalizing Misandry: From Public Shame to Systemic Discrimination Against Men (2006) and Sanctifying Misandry: Goddess Ideology and the Fall of Man (2010)